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Q: Dear Patrician: I like your new blog. Thanks! When you wrote last week about reading faces from photographs, you ended by saying to think twice about submitting photos – and a big check! Does that mean that you will read my face if I send some photos, but be prepared to know your reading might not be the best representation of your work because the photographs will probably be misleading? And how big is the check? I’ve got a big medical question for you and I’m willing to take the chance. Maybe if I send enough pictures, you can get my real picture.

A: Hello Chris. For all the reasons I covered in my blog, I do not read faces from photographs, especially for medical conditions. I strongly advise you to see your health care practitioner/s to determine your diagnosis. I know there are a few sites that urge your to send your photos – and that big check! Please think more than twice before you do so. And then think again.

Thank you for your question.

Q: Dear Patrician: I just read the www.iVillage.com Celebrity Face Off profile. That was fun! I have a question: How does cosmetic surgery affect how you read someone? You mentioned Jennifer Aniston’s narrow nostrils, but I think she’s had a nose job. Do you have to see someone’s original nose, or does the nose they “choose” say more about a person than the nose they’re “given?”

 

 

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A. Hello Erika. According to Taoist theory, the traits associated with the nose are ego, power, drive, and leadership. And it seems that every culture consciously or subconsciously regards people with larger noses to have those strong qualities. Those with smaller noses tend to be team players, or the quiet behind-the scenes supporters. If you doubt this, take a look at the noses that belong to the powerful leaders in your own circles, and worldwide.

In Mien Shiang, more is more, so if you whittle away at the size of your nose, you are also whittling away the impact of your ego, power, drive and leadership abilities, to yourself and to others.

Most of us realize that when we change our appearance we often change our behavior. The more I understand the correlation of mind, body, spirit, and behavior, the more I see how profound these changes are. It’s equally important to remember how deeply others are affected by these changes. If you no longer look like a leader–with a good, strong nose that ‘”comes off the face”’– others will not respond positively to your leadership, even if they have in the past.

These changes can be positive or challenging, or a combination of both. That’s why I strongly recommend to those contemplating cosmetic surgery to think of all the changes ahead, not just the physical ones.

In answer to your last question: both noses say a lot. The nose you are born with tells us the gifts or challenges you came into the world with regarding ego, power, drive and leadership. The nose you shape yourself (or with a little help from a plastic surgeon), tell us that you may have just created some new and unique gifts and challenges that you may not know how to deal with, simply because they are new, and mostly because they are opposite to your true nature. Understanding, accepting, and embracing your true nature–with all its quirks, and gifts, and challenges–helps you to live your life to its fullest. Find ways to best prepare for and respond to those changes. Naturally, I think Mien Shiang is one of the many good ways to do this.

Since this is just the tip of the iceberg, or nose so to speak, I’ll be writing more about plastic surgery and it’s effects from a Mien Shiang perspective in an article to be posted on my website in late summer.

Thank you for your question.

Q: I loved the workshop you gave at our Design Xchange at Mattel, Inc. in Los Angeles last week. I learned a lot about myself. During a break, though, I heard you talking about lines on your face that can tell you if you’re on your life’s path. Could you tell me more?

A: Well, I loved the workshop at your Design Xchange, too. The lines you heard me talking about are the Fa Ling lines. They are also called Purpose Lines, and they tell us if we know our creative and spiritual purpose in life; and, if so, are we living our lives accordingly.

Though some people begin to develop Fa Ling lines early in life, we hope to have them by the time we reach our early forties. Ideal Fa Ling lines begin alongside the top of our nostrils and flare gently downward, ending just before the corners of our mouth. The exact length, depth, and shape vary with each person, and with each side of the face. Like with all facial markings, they can appear on just one side of the face, or on both. If you have a Fa Ling only on the left side of your face (the side of your face that reflects your inner thoughts and life, as well as your father’s influence) it means that you are aware of your creative and spiritual purpose in life, but you are not yet living according to those purposes.

If you have a Fa Ling line only on your right side (reflecting your outer behavior and thoughts, and your mother’s influence) it might mean that though you are on your Full Life’s Path, you, or someone close to you, may not value the choices you have made. Maybe you live in a community, culture, or family that does not approve of who you are or how you lead your life. It often takes enormous courage to live your life according to your true beliefs. Gather your courage and make your life yours. You will benefit in mind, body and spirit.
Thank you for your question.

Q: I have been dating a very nice man for three months. He’s caring, funny, and interesting, but he seems to lack ambition. My sister claims it’s because he “doesn’t have a chin.” Does Mien Shiang have anything to say about small chins and ambition?

A: In Mien Shiang we look at the chin to determine character and will: The larger or more prominent the chin, the stronger the character and the will. Having a small chin does not mean that your nice new man is devoid of character and spineless, however. It simply means that he probably has to work harder to define his character, to himself as well as to others, and that it is difficult for him to naturally exert his will. Just because he is not by nature ambitious, does not mean that he is doomed to failure. Often, the harder we have to work for something the more we value it, and the more positively others respond to us.

When reading a face we look at every feature individually, as well as how each feature complements the other. If, for instance, this man has a strong or prominent jaw, his determination could well make up for what he lacks in will. Also, keep in mind that more is not always better. A very prominent chin often indicates stubbornness and aggressiveness. Either extreme has its own challenges.
Thank you for your question.

Q: I have a bone to pick with you. My mother, who lives with us, attended a workshop that you gave and came home and announced to me and my wife that you told her that it was “her nature” to be controlling because of the big bones over her eyebrows. Now my mother wants all of us to accept her “gift” and just let her be herself. My wife is about to leave me over this. Can you help undo the damage you have done?

A: I don’t remember your mother specifically, which is a shame because she sounds memorable. I wonder, besides having prominent brow bones, does your mother also have ears that stick out? People whose ears stick out tend to hear only what they want to hear!

As for your mother’s “gift” and how you receive it, it is of course, up to you. I often point out to my clients and students that because they have a particular feature that indicates a “negative” trait, does not mean that they are negative or bad. Nor will that negative trait always dominate their behavior. I suggest that we look at our positive traits as gifts we must nurture and continue to develop, and our negative traits as gifts as well — gifts we can use to help us to better understand ourselves and continue to grow emotionally and spiritually.

Your mother, you, and your wife, are all equally important parts of your family, and none of you, I am sure, truly want to stop trying to be your loving best with each other, and with your selves. Perhaps, since your mother knows something about Mien Shiang, she can help you and your wife find your prominent features, and celebrate with you what they mean. Good luck.

Thank you for your question.

Q: I am a thirty three year old woman who has always had two light moles on my face, one right on my hairline, and the other is on my chin. Could you tell me what they mean?

A: Since you have had these two moles for as long as you can remember, and that you say they are light, I am presuming they are a brown or reddish color with a slight luminescence. These healthy appearing types of moles are considered marks of good fortune.

Your hairline is in the Heavenly Region of the face, reflecting your ancestral, genetic, and parental influences. A mole on the hairline is very lucky as it is considered a sign of affluence that can be achieved in your early to mid years.

The chin is in the Earthly Region of the face which determines our fate from age 60 onward. If your mole is on the ‘body’of the chin, it indicates happiness in those years. If the mole is on the very end of the chin, the ancient Taoist monks said that it could indicate loneliness in your later life.

These symbols help us to be aware of our natural gifts, as well as to be aware of certain predisposed challenges. If you do have a mole at the end of your chin, it does not mean that you are destined to have a lonely older life. It simply indicates an inherent challenge for you, and by knowing that, you can prepare for your later years by wisely keeping sound, loving relationships with your family and your friends. It may also be a good reminder for you to be attentive to the elders who are presently in your life.

Thank you for your question.